The Three Pillars of Social & Sexual Abundance:

A Quick Reference Guide

Pillar One: Focused Presence

Give your full attention to everyone you interact with, making them feel like the center of the universe.

If done correctly, your interaction should feel as if it’s surrounded by a bubble with the rest of the world becoming hazy. Your eye contact should have a gravity that draws others toward you.

If your mind wanders, refocus immediately to restore your presence.

Further reading: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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Pillar Two: Honest Expression

Bland/polite/neutered expression offends no one, but attracts the same.

Instead of trying to express yourself in the way that you think is best, just be honest. Instead of trying to play it cool, be vulnerable. Worried you shouldn’t say something because it might not be universally liked? Say it anyway.

Express your unique personality. You won’t attract everyone, but you’ll attract the people whose company you’ll enjoy the most.

Further reading: No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert A Glover

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Pillar Three: Sexual Acknowledgement

If you want things to go in a romantic direction, you typically have to lead it there (best done once the conversation is rolling.)

You begin this by acknowledging both of your sexuality. Look at them as a sexual being, noticing what about them stirs the most emotion in our lower body, feeling as much of this energy as possible, and communicating it through our eye contact, words, and touch.

If done correctly, you’ll notice a distinct shift in their emotion.

Further reading: The Alabaster Girl by Zan Perrion

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