Some of us are on the bleeding edge of fashion; others couldn’t care less. Like it or not though, we will be judged on our appearance. It isn’t without good reason either: Often, a person’s appearance will reflect their inner state. When I’m feeling good, I’m usually taking better care of myself and vice-versa.
While fashions may come and go, I believe there are three crucial elements to looking good in the clothes you’re wearing that make all the difference no matter what situation you find yourself in.
1. Wear clothes that fit.
You had to have heard this by now, and it really is the most important thing. A $300 suit that’s been professionally tailored for you will always look better than a $3000 suit that hasn’t. Keep your clothes form-fitting without being tight.
2. Wear clothes that make you feel incredible.
You know that one shirt that you always feel great in? Maybe you save it for special occasions or big dates, but it stands out from everything else in your wardrobe. Now — everything you wear should make you feel that way.
Don’t try to fit into the latest fashion unless it makes you feel amazing when you look at yourself in the mirror. That’s the ideal you should be going for with everything you wear when you leave your home. I’ve definitely got lots of super-casual clothes, but I also may own multiples of my favorite shirts for going out.
3. Wear clothes that express your personality.
We’re not all rock stars, polished professionals, hippies, or nerds. We’re all individuals that have our own unique combination of values. Don’t try to be anything that you’re not, but rather wear clothes that express who you are proudly. I’m a simple, casual guy, and my clothes reflect that. Who are you? And what are your clothes projecting about yourself?
True, there will be some women that will be less attracted to my personal style than they’d be to others. A woman who is super into high fashion probably be attracted to a guy wearing an outfit from the latest issue of GQ — although she still might want to experiment with a guy with more alternative tastes. While it may be tempting to start wearing leather and get a few piercings if you want to date women with more alternative tastes, if you’re clearly not comfortable in your clothes then you won’t be doing yourself any favors. A punk-rocker will still be more attracted to the GQ guy who’s comfortable in his clothes than the guy who isn’t, even if he’s dressed like Billy Idol.
Notice as well that all three of these rules can be accomplished on any budget and fit to any occasion. Of course your clothing will be different at a wedding versus a bar, for example, but these will still be the most important aspects regarding appearance in any situation. They’re simple, for sure, but easy to overlook or dismiss. Take a few moments to prioritize this, though, and you’ll see a noticeable difference in the way others react to you.